Book Review How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish

by Gary Gilles

There are many good parenting books available to help you navigate the many challenges of raising your children. But, in my opinion, this is one of the best.

I first came upon this book many years ago (now in its 20th edition) and the communication strategies are just as relevant , fresh and applicable today as they were 30 years ago when it was first published. The practical, down-to-earth principles the authors discuss will never be dated because they are built upon the strongest relational foundation: respect. The theme of the entire book: When you learn the skill of listening carefully to your child and talk to them with respect, they will want to talk and listen to you. As parents, we are teaching our children how to communicate by how we talk and listen to them.

Using sensitivity and humor, the authors discuss many valuable suggestions, techniques and ideas for communicating without being punitive or provoking your child to anger. Some of the topics include:

  • Managing your child’s negative feelings along with your own
  • Setting limits that your child will honor
  • Resolving conflicts with the whole family in mind

Though the book is targeted to parents, the skills you will learn can easily apply to any relationship. This book has been enthusiastically praised by parents and professionals around the world.

If you read only one parenting book this year, make it this one.

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